Good friends are hard to find, but the Bible says that we really need them. Proverbs 27:7-10 continues the theme of friendship that began in the first six verses of the chapter (my post on it was called “Godly Friends”). We see in verse 8 that our home should be our first and greatest source of companionship and love. People without good home lives are like birds without nests; alone and distressed. God created the family as the foundation of society. When families are strong in Christian love and behavior, churches, communities, and states and nations are strong. We also need friends outside the home who can bring us “delight” in our daily living (v. 9). One of my friends back in Florida was often told by his parents that there are three types of people we meet in life: people who like us, people who don’t like us, and people who don’t care. They said to build friendships with the first kind and not worry about the other two groups. That is sound advice! Verse 10 emphasizes that we need friends who are physically near to us. We will be lonely if all of our “friends” are people that we rarely get to see, so we need to reach out to our neighbors and classmates and teammates whom we encounter often and look for solid friends among them. Finally, verse 7 seems to be an unrelated observation about the appeal of food for the full vs. the hungry. But since all the verses before and after it are about friendship, there is probably a connection. It may be that “the honeycomb” is talking about friends who are pleasant and fun. They are great to have around to cheer us up at times but cannot help us when we are really hurting. We need deeper friendships with deep people who can stick with us in hard times of spiritual and emotional “hunger.”
So how are you doing with your friendships today? Do you need to spend more time enjoying the fellowship and love of your parents, siblings, or other close family members? Do you need to work on strengthening your relationships with your current friends? Do you need to reach out this coming school year to look for more quality friends among those you see a lot? Do you need more friends who will stick close when things are tough? May God give all us of the joy of stronger friendships today, this week, and in the near future and years to come.
The Text (Proverbs 27:7-10)
7 A satisfied soul loathes the honeycomb, But to a hungry soul every bitter thing is sweet.
8 Like a bird that wanders from its nest Is a man who wanders from his place.
9 Ointment and perfume delight the heart, And the sweetness of a man’s friend gives delight by hearty counsel.
10 Do not forsake your own friend or your father’s friend, Nor go to your brother’s house in the day of your calamity; Better is a neighbor nearby than a brother far away.
Questions to Think About
- Do you ever have deep, important conversations with your parents? How about your siblings, grandparents, or cousins? Why or why not?
- Who are your top 3 closest friends right now? Are they people who can really help you in hard times, or are they more just “good times” kind of friends? Explain
- Are there some new friendships that you should consider pursuing at NRCA this school year? Can you think of 3 new friends who would be good people to start spending time with?