The high costs of immorality are way worse than the brief moments of pleasure that a sinful relationship can offer. Remember that all of Proverbs 5 is a caution to young men to avoid bad girls (and for young women to avoid bad guys). The first section, verses 1-6, opened with an appeal for the reader to listen well for the words of wisdom that would follow. It then warned us that bad girls (and guys) tend to flatter and entice people who are then led astray by their emotions and pride. In the end, a relationship that seemed sweet like honey becomes bitter and deadly.
Verses 7-14 repeat the pattern of a plea to listen followed by why immoral women (and men) are harmful. Only now, even more reasons for avoiding the pitfalls of immorality are given. Adultery and immoral relationships will hurt your reputation and witness for Christ (v. 8). It will cost you money (v. 10) and eventually your health and perhaps even your life (v. 11). Married people who cheat on their spouses risk the peace, stability, and happiness of their families. Single people who date unbelievers or immature or backslidden Christians risk becoming trapped in bad relationships that could lead to bad marriages. Many Christians in their 30’s and 40’s today are living with sorrows and tough circumstances that were caused by bad relationship choices made in their teens and 20’s. They have many regrets and wish that they would have listened to the counsel of God’s Word in their youth (vv. 12-14). God’s redemption and healing and grace are still available even after big mistakes, but prevention up front is the better way.
You see, the good news for you is that you are still young and have your whole life ahead of you. You can walk the path of wisdom in your future relationships. Focus now in your middle and high school years on building strong spiritual disciplines in your life. Learn now how to walk with Christ and make right choices that protect and strengthen your relationship with Him. Let Him build character in your life and seek out godly mentors to help you grow in wisdom and stature. Be patient to prepare and wait for a godly wife or husband in the right time. If you ask any older Christian adult, they will tell you not to worry about dating until your junior year of high school at the earliest. This will probably be a tough, less traveled road, even at a Christian school like NRCA. But the narrow path of wisdom will be worth it when you get to enjoy the blessings of a healthy, holy Christian marriage one day.
The Text (Proverbs 5:7-14)
7 Therefore hear me now, my children, And do not depart from the words of my mouth.
8 Remove your way far from her, And do not go near the door of her house,
9 Lest you give your honor to others, And your years to the cruel one;
10 Lest aliens be filled with your wealth, And your labors go to the house of a foreigner;
11 And you mourn at last, When your flesh and your body are consumed,
12 And say:
“How I have hated instruction,
And my heart despised correction!
13 I have not obeyed the voice of my teachers, Nor inclined my ear to those who instructed me!
14 I was on the verge of total ruin, In the midst of the assembly and congregation.”
Questions to Think About
- How do you think that a relationship with a bad girl or guy could end up hurting your reputation?
- How could an adulterous or immoral relationship cost you your money and health?
- If the results of bad relationships are so awful, why do you think people are still foolish enough to get trapped in them?