All of Proverbs 5 is a warning against adultery and immorality. The whole chapter is one big, “Stay away from bad girls (and guys)” persuasive message. It begins with a strong plea for us to open our ears and really listen to what God is trying to tell us. Remember that God used King Solomon, the wisest of all Israel’s kings, to write or collect the content of Proverbs. Remember also that in his old age, Solomon disobeyed God by loving many foreign (pagan, nonbelieving) wives and girlfriends. He learned firsthand the dangers of letting bad girls lead you into sin, and the nation was torn in half after Solomon’s death because he had allowed these women to steal his heart away from his God. So when Solomon begs us in verse 1 to give him our attention that we might remain wise and pure (verse 2), we should listen up.
While the immoral woman (or man) may appear awesome, she (or he) will lead you down a road of suffering and disaster. Bad girls and guys will flatter you with words and gestures. They will attempt to impress you with their hotness and coolness (a person can have both at the same time; if you think about it, this makes sense). But they are the way to your spiritual destruction (literally “hell” in verse 5, which begins on earth and for the unsaved continues in eternity). You must be like Joseph with Potiphar’s wife; just RUN from such people! Once you reach dating age (late high school / college), don’t even think about dating someone who is not clearly a born-again Christian, someone whose life gives evidence of a growing relationship with Jesus Christ. Get help from your parents and other wise Christian adults (pastors, teachers) in assessing that person’s character. If a person is not being led by the Holy Spirit inside them, no matter how nice they might seem, the Bible tell us that they are being led by sin, the world, and the devil (check out Ephesians 2:1-3). That means for you now as middle school students, purpose in your heart that will not allow yourself to “like” people who are not walking with the Lord. Let God give you a vision now of becoming a godly person and being with a godly person when you are ready. And for now, let God continue to work on moving you in that direction as you grow in your own relationship with Christ and your friendships with other growing Christians.
The Text (Proverbs 5:1-6)
1 My son, pay attention to my wisdom; Lend your ear to my understanding,
2 That you may preserve discretion, And your lips may keep knowledge.
3 For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey, And her mouth is smoother than oil;
4 But in the end she is bitter as wormwood, Sharp as a two-edged sword.
5 Her feet go down to death, Her steps lay hold of hell.
6 Lest you ponder her path of life— Her ways are unstable; You do not know them.
Questions to Think About
- What qualities do you hope to find in a future girlfriend (guys) or boyfriend (girls)? Where do faith and godliness rank in importance for you?
- How do you need to start changing or preparing now to be ready to be a godly boyfriend or girlfriend once you reach dating age?